Apr 03

Dear Bridegroom

Happy Easter Eve!

I read a reflective devotional this past week about Jesus’ resurrection signaling His return to the Father’s house to prepare for the Ultimate Wedding — when He comes back again for His beloved people, His church that He calls the bride of Christ. This wedding cost the Father a great price: the blood of His Son. Just as we wait for our future mates with purpose and wisdom, all the moreso shall be anticipate our Eternal Bridegroom’s arrival with faithfulness, purity, and expectancy.

Revelations 19:7 has become sort of the banner verse of DFH. Let us make ourselves ready…


And, here are two DFH Easter excerpts to share. Excuse the somebunniness. What was I thinking? :P

My Dear Special Somebunny—
Easter weekend, ’tis. Be to our Christ, our Savior. He
is alive; He is living; He is life-breathing. And oh
how much He loves me … so much He gave me you.

There dwells in me a certain contentedness, joy,
simplicity in my life these past weeks. The security
of Him and him. Not needing things … or stuff.
But being able to just be—there has been comfort
in little. Less has been more. I feel full. Bounty in
paucity … Abundance in losing, forsaking self, giv-
ing, denying, caring.

I’m meeting my Jesus early tomorrow morning at
sunrise. I can’t wait. :)



Happy Easter, you special some~bunny!
Isn’t it unique how Easter’s in March this year? It’s
a deliciously lovely day to be celebrating the resur-
rection of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. :) He
makes us more than conquerors. A much-needed
reassurance, given that the last two weeks have been
really difficult for me in body and mind.

The Lord has been teaching me that He has given
every spiritual blessing and that the task remaining is
my receiving. What comfort in that thought—God
holds in His hand everything that I could desire, ask
for, imagine. But I don’t believe enough. Did you
know we can believe and still have unbelief? Lord,
take away my unbelief.

Faith is a mysterious thing … God, help me to
believe completely that all that I see now is tem-
porary—that you will take me from this place and
bring me to another place. Give me love to endure
all things, hope all things, never fail. I also believe in
you. I believe God’ll bring me you. :) He will, he will.

Love you now, love you to the end…

Because He lives,
Easter ’02

Mar 30

Release Day

Today is DFH’s official national release. Thanks much for the support and encouragement thus far…

We look forward to seeing how God will work and move in the days to come.

Mar 24

DFH morsels

… from a Trinidad gal …


I will pray for your strength, health, faith, work, relationships, heart, dreams, mind, choices, fears and more, EVERYDAY.

I will be confident, loving, caring, strong, submissive, faithful, God fearing, obedient, courageous, and respected.

With God as the foundation in our relationship and as long as we are holding hands, there is nothing we can’t do TOGETHER.

We will trust in His timing, we can rest in Him knowing that He has good things in store for our future.


I want you to know that I don’t plan on settling for anything less than you. I am working on being the right woman for you.

Mar 18

Low is the new {real} high

Excerpts from a devo I read this week written by one of our church members… Good stuff.


“It is not this way among you, but whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:26-28)

As a single adult, there are many times when I long to be married to a beautiful wife and have some great kids. That is what I want. At this point in my life, however, God has not blessed me in this way. Does that mean that I should just sit and wait on the Lord like I am in a doctor’s office, waiting for my turn?

When I believe that Jesus really did give up His life as a ransom for me, it changes everything. The Lord has given me a chance to use this time in my life to serve others instead of focusing on my singleness, which, in turn, has brought me joy that I could never have imagined.

The question I struggle with is how much I should serve or how much of my time and money I should give. Here, too, Jesus gives us a great example. He gave up everything to serve us.

Mar 04

What horns are you tooting?

Our young adult pastor gave a memorable illustration this past week that I thought worth sharing…


He relayed the story of Christmas last year and it being the first time that his 2-year old daughter was old enough to open presents. 6 months before, he happened to be at Toys R’ Us when they were going out of business and got this awesome Barbie jeep on clearance that he knew she would absolutely love. He hid it in his closet for half of a year just waiting to give it to her on Christmas Day.

That morning, as the family began to unwrap gifts, the first one she picked to open happened to be a 1-dollar horn from Target, just something to put under the tree. But for some reason, she became attached to it, despite the fact that the front piece broke off soon after and didn’t care for the other presents with her name on them.

Daddy kept coaxing her to dig into the rest of her pile but she seemed content in blowing her cheap, plastic horn. Finally, he couldn’t contain himself any longer and picked her up and carried her to the room where he had wanted to surprise her with the jeep. Needless to say, she couldn’t believe her eyes when she saw that Dad had wanted to give her something grander than anything she could have ever imagined.


How often do we cling so tightly to our little good-for-nothing horns, oblivious to the wild blessings that our Father is waiting to bestow on us if we only let Him?

Be it relationships, our future spouses, careers, or any facet of our lives, He desires the absolute best for us if we surrender our petty grasps on self and our limited perspectives. Yes, there will be questions and doubts and waiting. But rest in the One that wills good to His own.

Feb 25


Why do I get rather teary-eyed at weddings these days?

This past weekend was no exception as Kenneth & Grace, two incredibly faithful individuals, joined together to become Mr. and Mrs. Iao. Grace’s vows somewhat reminded me of this Grace’s as she had started praying for the man God would bring into her life since 7th grade.

It’s such a mystery how God sometimes unites the most unlikely couples and yet somehow they just … work … Maybe that’s part of His humor… or way of reminding us we can’t do it alone. These sacred relationships continue to work if we choose to work at them.

Many congrats to the newlywed! You’ve touched many lives as singles and we now look forward to seeing you bless others as a couple in the days to come…

Feb 18

A peek

In honour of the month of love, here are a few V-Day excerpts from DFH… Yes, some cheese but realness nonetheless. :P


02.13.95 No. 11
Dear Future Husband,
… Will you keep me waiting? Please not too long, okay? Happy Valentine’s, my valentine! …

02.08.96 No. 19
Dear Future Husband,
… Valentine’s is that much closer, and I heard news of a Sadie Hawkins Dance in which my gang of friends are concocting preposterous ideas. Of course, crushless me is excluded. Sadness. I still dream of roses, candlelight dinners, soft music, and a heart full of love. Here’s to the fulfillment of those dreams! One day. Only you. …

02.17.00 No. 62
Dear Future Husband,
… V-Day week! My first Valentine’s a.b. (after breakup). Was it Happy SAD (Single Awareness Day)? In my moments of loneliness, I was telling my friends how our hopes and dreams dwell not in a guy … but in God and God alone. For we cannot forget the ultimate Valentine that was given us two millennia past in the form of a God-man who forsake (forsook?!) all His rights … shed innocent blood … that we might not only have life but life more abundantly. Now that’s true love. And it really goes deeper than a dozen roses, boxes of chocolates, or bunches of balloons.

It’s kinda funny reading past entries, finding in them the yearning desires of a hopeless romantic: a girl in love with being in love (a.k.a., me!) wanting all these things, thinking they would fulfill me beyond my wildest dreams. Surely then I’d be happy. Now I’m thinking—I’ve had all these things given to me by a guy, yet I am not satisfied in the ways I thought I would be. For now I am convinced that it is He … He that completes me. May He always be my All in All. …

02.16.01 No. 78
Dear Future Husband,
… Happy belated Valentine’s Day, my sweet valentine! I long for the day we can spend the 14th of February together, year in and year out. …


And by His grace, that we are… This year, it was snowboarding in Banff. :)

Feb 09

What is your story?

My husband and I got to serve students in music + media at an Epic Anthology conference this past weekend.

Besides being reminded of our agedness and seemingly light years from collegedom (haha), it was a blessing, especially as I reflected on the theme of anthology and story — how the Author of Life uniquely places each of us in {ever-changing} places and settings and roles to live and play out.

May it be our glorious passion to weave legacies of faith, story by story by story into His Great Anthology.

Jan 12

The Beginning

Welcome to the DFH site! Here you’ll find a little bit about the book along with updates, announcements, events and more. We’d also love to hear from you — stories, testimonies, and even your own letters to be shared on the site.

Advance copies of Dear Future Husband are currently available here. Release to bookstores and online will be on March 30, 2010.


It’s hard to grasp what began from a summer of compiling letters from old journals while the husband was on an extended away somehow morphed into a manuscript that returned an acceptance letter from a publisher, making reality this bound paperback I hold in my hands.

This past year has been quite a process, both in all the intricacies and stages involved in publication, but moreso one of sanctification, humility, pruning and discipline, drawing me, many times in desperation, [back] to the Love by which this book stands for and the reason a very private me decided to share years of personal thoughts and letters.

My cling-to passage from the past months, wherein I found rest and saw His promises mercifully poured on me:

Come, let us return to the LORD.
He has torn us to pieces
but he will heal us;
he has injured us
but he will bind up our wounds.

After two days he will revive us;
on the third day he will restore us,
that we may live in his presence.

Let us acknowledge the LORD;
let us press on to acknowledge him.
As surely as the sun rises,
he will appear;
he will come to us like the winter rains,
like the spring rains that water the earth.

// Hosea 6:1-3


An immense gratitude goes to Tate Publishing for this unspeakable opportunity and the amazing team I had the privilege of working with over the weeks. Thank you, also, to the small pocket of family/friends who prayed unwaveringly and saw me to completion.


Soli deo gloria,